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[quote=Anonymous]Because I have a sense that having some ways of reclaiming one's mind and heart would be very helpful to get through something where the future is uncertain. My marriage is juuuuuuust about broken completely due to DH's breaches of trust and addictions he is now finally confronting.

So I have to decide if I support him in his recovery and trust again OR make a decision that enough evidence is in that he does not have what it takes to be in a marriage. I have no way of leaving now, but I totally would if I could, just to let him do this recovering business without me being tortured by questions of "is this even possible"?

Im seeing an UGH therapist Monday who might actually be good, but goddamnit I am so tired of having to seek help for his problem I dont have any control over. So, maybe I should find little ways to find light and love in my life, such as focusing on my daughter, baking pumpkin bread today, raking leaves.

I just spend WAY WAY too much time processing his choices and motivations, its no way to live. Now that his antidepressants are finally at the correct dose, I think, he is starting to "see" things and admit to things he did that were wrong. Apparently he didnt see it before, now he can, thanks to the pills, which he used to angrily say I forced him to take, but which he now says he chose to take. So, some hope there, but all this a few weeks old, literally two weeks of revelations.

PUMPKIN BREAD. RAKING LEAVES. Hot Shower? Home pedicure? Scented candles? Working out.

Thoughts/tips?
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