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[quote=Anonymous]I need help with this.  It sounds ridiculous, but here it goes.  My DH has bad breath and won't do anything about it.  His sense of smell and taste are not very sensitive.  For instance, he thinks I've never had bad breath even in the morning, and I KNOW I have because I can smell it sometimes.  I mean, I'm in my 40's, have had plenty of sinus infections, etc., and there is the morning breath everyone gets.  So obviously I get bad breath too.  But he has never smelled it.  He can't smell or taste his own bad breath.  He told me the other day he can't feel the difference between when he has brushed his teeth or hasn't yet that day.  He was conscious of it when at work and chewed gum constantly when there, because I had said some things about it nicely and I think people gave him hints there.  But now he works at home.

So he brushes his teeth once per day in the morning.  Sometimes he forgets on the weekends but if we are going to be intimate then he will go brush his teeth right before, because I have asked enough in the past.  Well I have brought up that "everyone" brushes their tongue, since that is where most of the bacteria are.  He gags when brushing his tongue.  So I bought him a tongue scraper and said that may help.  He tried it once/twice and said it is better but he still feels like he's going to gag.  Well, his breath is better after he brushes his teeth, but it is not gone, so when having sex I don't want to kiss him, and that's a bummer for me.  It is like he isn't very motivated about it either.  I feel like I can't come up with another nice way to address it.  He really should be brushing twice/day and trying to get used to the scraper, and rinsing with listerene.  He's in his 50's, I'm in my 40's.

Sorry this was long.  Please give any suggestions as to what to do/say now.  If I say too much, he gets annoyed and says "I can take care of myself" or just doesn't do anything.  Usually that is when I have said he should be brushing more, rinsing, and scraping tongue "to take care of your teeth and gums like the hygienist said, and it's good for breath".  I guess I haven't flat out said "your breath is horrid and it affects our intimacy" because his ego is sensitive and he doesn't take those things well.  However he knows I think he has somewhat of a breath issue and at times has argued with me and said "I don't have bad breath" because he can't smell it.  Sigh. [/quote]

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