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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister saw a text message from her DH's girlfriend.

I think that if you suspect, there is a 90% chance that you are right.  You should trust your gut on this one.  Dig for information, but do not confront with out hard evidence.  Cheaters lie, and a cheater will lie to your face plus starting covering his or her tracks better, making it harder to get the proof you need.

And don't listen to the naysayers on here who say "why do you need proof?" You need it so you don't feel crazy, and so that your spouse cannot paint you as crazy to everyone else.

www.survivinginfidelity.com has great advice and support, too.  Good luck.[/quote]

Ditto this. It's totally your gut. And the cheater does such a good cover up and lies that they make you feel like you're crazy even thinking that way. I had a gut feeling for awhile as my X always kept that damn BB close to him. And his lies didn't make sense. Long story that I won't bore you with but if you sense it, you're probably right.

You say you're not sure if you want to confront yet. Do you know if you'll stay or leave if there is cheating? If you think you'll leave, plan now on stashing some cash and copying all financial records. It's better to have an exit plan if you expect the divorce to go badly. Even if you don't expect that, it's never easy. Protect yourself and no unprotected sex as well. [/quote]

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