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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, I am in therapy now as our relationship with H has hit the impasse it seems. Long story short, he thinks I am a boring, fat woman with no interests beyond our child, and criticizes my methods of child rearing, while not really participating. My side of the story is that he has always been a less than average dad, not interested, not helping, not participating; rude at times; however he brings home the bacon, and sometimes plays with our child or is able to lend a hand. 
As a result of this, he nitpicks on me, tries to control financially, etc. And I lost all interest in him except as father and breadwinner.
The therapist tells me that I need to appreciate the things he does, and not just criticize him. While I understand this in theory, I am having a hard time implementing this. Should I appreciate what I see as basic care, like having a job and very occasionally engaging with own child? Really? She says that until I truly appreciate, I am not free to decide whether I want to stay or leave...
I have been thinking about it a lot, appreciate any insight. 
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Sound like he has lost interest in you too except as the mother and the maid. To me you are both even. It sounds lile he sometimes helps arou d the house and sometimes helps with the kid. I'm guessing you never bring home the bacon...so all in all he contributes more.

BTW as a SAHM there is zero excuse for you to be fat. Thats just plain old lazy.[/quote]

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