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[quote=Anonymous]Op, you have your heels dug in and your arms crossed and you are being dragged into being appreciative like a stubborn donkey. If you are going to give therapy and the marriage a chance, which it seems you want to, you have to give yourself permission to see and do things differently. You can try and be sincerely appreciative without having to say he is the world's greatest dad or husband. It seems you feel if you say something nice, you also need to say something critical to make sure he (and even us) know that he really isn't all that great. You need to let go of that. By being appreciative you aren't relieving him of his responsibility to step up to the plate, you are just choosing to shift the dynamic slightly and in doing so he may respond differently.[/quote]
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