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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with others that your sister sounds like she has issues, and that there is little chance of some kind of miraculous turnaround at this point in her life.

Maybe she was really hoping for extended playdate, either at her house, or at your Dad's, as a way to give herself a break from childcare?

At any rate, for the sake of reducing family drama (especially with holidays around the corner) I'd suggest a friendly email/phone call whatever, saying that your sorry about any mis-communications during the last visit (your not apologizing for what you did, just the situation) and then saying that you are thinking the next time you'll be in town will be ____ and can you guys get together at ____ time in ___ place to do ____.
I know your preference would be to keep things loose and unscheduled, but I'm thinking the way things are currently with your sister, you'd be better off making your visits with her very specific and very scheduled. If you want the rest of the time to be more unstructured, fine.
Good luck![/quote]
She did make a very specific and scheduled time for her sister, and the sister bailed![/quote]

She did make the plans, but I get the feeling the family dynamic going on is this sister just "does things" and everyone else goes along. Think of dad who just took the niece. 
OP could have called in the morning and said, "so, as we discussed, we are visiting with you at your house today." She has to call her sister out on the passive aggressive stuff.[/quote]

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