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[quote=Anonymous]There's a few possibilities here.  One is that in his mind, you are just as beautiful as his ex, but in a different way.  Some people have a type, but some people really don't.  (I have guy friends whose exes all look very different from one another.)  Another is that he doesn't care either way and he likes you for other things you bring to the table.  And also, don't forget, you may not have an accurate picture of how attractive you really are.  What you see as a bad nose, someone else might see as a feature that makes you striking or exotic (or cute or whatever.)

Thing is, with online dating in the picture, if he's a reasonably attractive guy and he's looking for a beautiful woman and that was the only qualifier, he could find one.  So he probably wouldn't date you if he didn't like you.

I once dated a ridiculously attractive and ridiculously in-shape guy, and women used to throw themselves at him in front of me.  It was odd for me - it did occasionally give me a bit of a complex.  I think I'm reasonably attractive and I have a good figure from working out a lot (and some genetics), but some of these women were close to model-hot.  And at one point, I noticed that hotter guys were more likely to flirt with me when I was with him, like his hotness was rubbing off on me.  I said something to him once along those lines and he said, "don't be ridiculous - they're flirting with you because you're hot.  I think we're very evenly matched."  I don't get my self-esteem from what men think, but it was interesting to hear it - that how he saw me was different than how I saw myself.  I think that might be true for you too.

An acquaintance of mine, Jennifer Tress, wrote a book called "You're not pretty enough."  The title refers to something her ex husband said to her.  (She is a very beautiful woman, though she did have an unfortunate hairdo in her earlier years.)  You might want to find it - it deals with stuff like this, about our ideas of beauty.

Good luck to you - definitely see someone about this, though.  [/quote]

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