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[quote=Anonymous]I recently started dating someone three months ago after giving myself two years to heal from a very heartbreaking break up. I've dated throughout the two years but he is the first guy I found compatible enough to enter a relationship with. While I don't harbor any feelings for my ex, I am traumatized from how things ended. I feel completely insecure about my looks and have this horrible thought that part of the reason my ex broke up with me was because I wasn't attractive enough. His girlfriends before me and his current wife are all gorgeous. I've always been very confident about who I am as a person and consider myself witty, intelligent etc. however, I am very critical of my appearance because of my mother. Growing up I would get comments about how I should model and how pretty I was but my mother would immediately tear me down with comments about how I would need a nose job first. Obviously, these issues need to be resolved through therapy but it's difficult not to have those comments cross my mind.

Getting back to the point, I just came across some pictures of my current boyfriend's two ex girlfriends prior to me. In my eyes they are beautiful, one resembles Megan Fox. My stomach sank when I saw them and I have been feeling extremely insecure about why this guy would be interested in me long term. I know the reason he broke up with the Megan fox lookalike was because of the long distance and he was completely infatuated with her. I don't blame him, I'd move across the world to be with someone that gorgeous lol. So I'm trying to move past the pictures I saw and give myself the credit I deserve for being awesome overall but this little voice in my head keeps telling me, I'm not good enough (appearance wise) to be with him. That he's dating me to kill time until he finds a more attractive woman like his exes.

I'm not sure what advice or kind of support I'm looking for on here, maybe more of personal experience with a similar issue. My therapist will probably give me some breathing exercise or lecture about self esteem when I see her haha[/quote]

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