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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry, but perhaps your daughter is better off without them?[/quote]

Agree. [/quote]

I agree also.  It's a tough thing to say - that she might be better off without these particular grandparents, but maybe it's the truth.  And, if you're serious about it, then maybe saying to the grandparents "I'm very sorry to hear that.  We don't stay in touch with you for the money so it's fine with us if you disinherit us, but we had hoped for you to have a relationship with your granddaughter.  Do you wish to have any level of contact with her?"

FWIW, you and your husband will define the relationship w/ the grandparents for your daughter - whether she has contact w/ them or not.  You'll set the tone, manage the context, communicate your own feelings about them in a way that will influence her view of them, etc...  So you have a lot of control over how she experiences that relationship, and often it is possible to have a pretty narrowly defined space for grandparent/grandchild contact that preserves a relationship for the child in a way that also respects the difficulties w/ other adults.

Whatever you decide is best, you will be able to make it ok for your daughter.

Good luck.[/quote]

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