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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm really sorry that your boyfriend makes promises and doesn't follow through on them.  That sucks.  People who do that are a real disappointment in a relationship.

[b]But gaslighting is a term with a very specific meaning.[/b]  It has nothing to do with what you are describing.  It means making someone think they are crazy for thinking something happened.  Watch the movie "Gaslight."

If your boyfriend told you that you were crazy for thinking he had promised you a gift, or that he had never told you that in the first place, that would be gaslighting.

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This.  Gaslighting would be your bf promising to get you a gift, not buying you a gift, denying that he promised to buy you a gift, and claiming that you must have imagined that he made any such promise.  Gaslighting is really about causing the victim to question her perception, memory, or even sanity by deliberate manipulation.   Your bf isn't denying that he promised you anything, he's just trying to make you feel badly because you relied on his promise and your feelings were hurt.  Not good behavior, but not gaslighting.  [/quote]

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