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[quote=Anonymous]My husband puts me down constantly. He does it in public and in private, and I think that he thinks that other people think he is being funny when he does it in public (no one does). I am sick of seeing other couples with whom we are eating dinner exchange knowing looks across the table, and sick of making excuses to my parents after he does it in front of them also. I am particularly concerned because we have a young daughter at home who is probably picking up on all of this and could/will? wind up in an emotionally abusive relationship because of it.

Some examples- he calls me fat all the time (I do struggle with my weight and have been overweight for most of our relationship, although not terribly so (size 10 or 12). I am currently not overweight but on the higher end of normal. Today he looked at me when I was baked and changing and said "ew, you are so pale, you REALLY have to do something about that" in disgust. Last night a friend made a sexually related comment to him about me and he responded that he was not interested (in me). For what it's worth, I think that 99/100 people would say that I am substantially more attractive than he is, even when I was heavier. I think this is coming from a place of insecurity, but it doesn't really even matter because I just can't take it anymore.

I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried ignoring, tried snapping back right away, tried rationally talking about it later, tried insulting him back, you name it. I can't get him to stop doing this. We spent thousands on therapy and quit because it was totally ineffective and we could not afford it.

I guess I am wondering if this is a salvageable relationship? Assuming that he does not change (because I have no reason to believe that he will), is it more harmful for my daughter to grow up with this than as a product of divorce?[/quote]

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