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[quote=Anonymous]That sucks to not have an equal partner along for the ride.  And sometimes it can be a crazy ride both in becoming pregnant and once you have a child.

How do you know you're in the right window for intercourse?  Are you temping and charting?  We tried for a year for #2 (I am now 20 weeks along) and after 2 m/c, finally and successfully conceived.  The first few months, though, I thought I ovulated in days 14-16 when in reality, once I started temping and charting on the fertility friend app, it was actually days 11-13.  We had missed our window entirely.

The only thing I can think of is to not let your DH know when your window is because baby making sex is draining and definitely not as much fun as spontaneous sex.  Especially when you've been at it for almost a year!  So don't let him see your calendars and get in the habit of doing it every few days, but jump his bones two nights in a row every time you do have sex.  Then you plan those two nights in a row to coincide with your most fertile days, and maybe it happens that way.  Men can have performance anxiety, too, and the planning aspect can take away from the fun that sex is supposed to be.

Also, you need to find something else to focus on besides babies.  It will happen for you in time, you just need to not see everyone else's luck as taking away from yours.  I always asked friends who conceived that year to rub their baby mojo on me.  Find a new hobby, start an exercise program, learn to cook French food.  Something to share with DH and hopefully you can connect on and communicate about something other than babies.

Good luck![/quote]

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