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[quote=Anonymous]The night before last my husband, in a fit of anger, destroyed my cell phone and raised his hand to hit me (but did not hit me). This occurred the night before I was supposed to leave on a 4-day trip with some friends. He did not want me to go and was trying to get me to change my mind. He was angry because I would be away on our anniversary. When planning the trip, we knew this would happen and since it was a once-in-a-lifetime trip, we decided that just I would go (he was invited as well, but we were concerned about both being away from our two children - 3 and 1 - for 4 days) for a shortened period of time (the other attendees were going to be traveling for a full week), and that we would celebrate our anniversary early (and we did just that with a trip to the Eastern Shore for 24 hours, two weekends prior). However, he still really did not want me to go and kept trying to convince me throughout the day, with escalating threats as the time drew closer (i.e., I would come back to divorce papers, he would tell the kids that I did not want to spend time with them, etc.). Finally, he tried to grab my phone to call the friend that I was planning to meet at the airport in a mere 4 hours. I tried to get it back from him and he sat down and as I was reaching down for it he started to yell at me not to go, raised his left hand and brought it up above my head and then brought it down, just short of hitting me. I jumped back and he got up, and smashed my phone against the wall, setting off our alarm. By this time, I had already found my work cell phone and dialed 911. I did not know what else to do as I felt powerless. He was holding the only other phone, my phone was destroyed, and I would have had to leave the house and go to a neighbor's house or flag down a car to make contact with anyone. The police came and counseled him to leave the house and go to a hotel, which he did. I contacted my friend and told her to go with the rest of the group without me. This all happened the wee hours of yesterday morning. In the meantime, a relative came to stay with me yesterday to provide moral support, at which point my husband came back to the house. He spent the night downstairs and I tried to have minimal contact with him in person (thought we have been communicating by text and email). I have not yet filed a protective order or pressed assault charges, primarily because his livelihood relies on security clearances. I have contacted a counselor and just had an individual therapy session this afternoon, and my husband has scheduled a couples' therapy session this evening. I have also gathered the name of lawyers to help me navigate the situation if I choose to file for divorce. At stake is the wellbeing of our beloved two small children (1 and 3). This is obviously one small part of a much larger and complex story, with escalating incidents over the course of a 9-year marriage. Ultimately, he got what he wanted as I did not go on the trip. I accept responsibility that I should not have continued to plan the trip if I knew it upset him so much, but a line has been crossed. I feel very isolated and ashamed. I don't think anyone would believe this was happening in my life. I graduated with honors from a Big 3 and have a college and several advanced degrees from prestigious institutions. I have excelled in my career path and manage important and high-profile issues in my current job. [/quote]

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