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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are having lots of problems, one of which is bad sex. For me, sex was never that great with him, but it was okay and I did have orgasms while we were dating and a bit after we were married. So many other things about him were great -smart, interesting, same values, wanted a family, good stable job, loving and affectionate and thoughtful and considerate, etc- that I thought that maybe great sex isn't the most important thing in a lifelong partner, that respect and stability and consideration were more important in the long run. So we got married, had two kids, and now are dealing with extreme financial stress- unemployment, lost our house, debt, etc.

Since the kids were born I find it harder and harder to force myself to have sex with him. I haven't had an orgasm with him since shortly after we were married but I used to do it anyway, hoping it would get better and thinking that he deserved it. I tried telling him what I like, showing him, asking him his desires, being more affectionate and spontaneous or going the other way and scheduling sex, and other things but nothing improves. Now with all our other stress I am almost repulsed by him but still force myself to do it every few months. I am of course very unsatisfied with this situation and so is he.

We have started counseling, and I wonder if there is even a chance that we can have a satisfying sex life. I know it is all my own fault for marrying someone with lackluster sex, but is it even possible to turn this around if we try? Has anyone ever done this?[/quote]

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