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[quote=Anonymous]My DH told me this weekend that he is depressed, and has been for a long time. Like, years.  In hindsight, I should have seen this coming. I dealt with PPD a long time ago, and was able to get out of it, but I have a family history of depression too.

I am so stunned, and so fearful of what this means.  I had suicidal thoughts, but no actions, when I dealt with PPD.  I can think of many things over the years that point to this for him.... decreased enjoyment of things that used to bring him joy, complaining of not having any friends, disengagement from the family, etc.  I wish I had seen it sooner. And this announcement comes on the heels of having had a long conversation recently, which led me to believe that things in our marriage were turning around. So much so that I was nearly giddy with joy.  I felt like we had turned a corner, and as though our marriage had been reinvigorated.

Three days later, he left on a business trip, and came home in, essentially, a tailspin.  I am just feeling devastated, especially after so eagerly anticipating his return. Fortunately, he has initiated help on his own (didn't tell me) about a month or two ago.

I feel so helpless. I'm scared for the marriage and the kids.  He told me a few things that led me to believe he is questioning whether being in a marriage is right for him.  He assured me later that he doesn't want a divorce and that he still loves me, but I don't know if I can really believe that.

I just don't know what to do. I know I can't fix it for him, and I guess I can take consolation in the fact that he has sought help, and is continuing to do so.  But he was adamant that he didn't want me involved because he says he needs to get himself fixed.  Help?[/quote]

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