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[quote=Anonymous]I'm coming to my wits end in my marriage of 27 years.  DW started running a few years ago now and it's more of a priority in her life than our marriage.  So much so that one evening we were getting "frisky" when she fell asleep.  Rather than getting up the next morning and finishing what we started, she was in her exercise clothes and headed down to the treadmill and DVD player to do her exercises.  I have come to accept her running, but just want her to have time for us also.  When she's racing twice on weekends (Sat and Sun mornings) that leaves no time for things like "Date Night" as she needs to be in bed early enough to get up to travel to wherever she goes.  I tried being supportive and going to races and such (carrying all the bags she brings) and that didn't seem to make a difference.  I suggested recently we have a date night on a Saturday and go to dinner/movie then come home and let things happen as couples would do.  And then make a lazy morning on Sunday.  I was told no as it was something she was really looking forward to and that I "blindsided" her asking on that Friday.  That's a total cop-out as she'd have said no if I'd asked a week prior.  Then she accused me of not letting her have "fun".  We've gone stretches in the past couple of years where we have gone 10 months and then 9 months between having sex.  I have tried to get things going on weeknights, but am told it's a "work night".  We've tried counselling and one of the suggestions was compromise.  I did that recently when she planned a "vacation" for us around a race we'd have to travel to.  When I suggested we just take a vacation without the running, I was told she'd already signed up and was going regardless.  At first I refused to go but then I compromised.  I will say we had a nice time.  But I don't see where the compromise is coming from on her end.  I apologize for coming here to vent, but needed to get things off of my chest as it doesn't seem like I'm getting anywhere with this issue.  Thank you for "listening".[/quote]

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