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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, Good for you for getting out of that abusive marriage and standing on your own. I am sure it was not an easy road to travel, but you have made it and isn't it refreshing to live life again in a [i]normal[/i] manner?

Since it has been six months and I am sure the marriage was traumatic and all, I still think it is a little too [u]early[/u] for you to be seeking your Mr. Forever. I am not saying you shouldn't date at all, by all means you should. But after what you have endured, I suggest you take things slowly in the love dept. and date around. Meet different men. See what's out there. Get to know them and decide for yourself just exactly what you will and will not accept in a man.

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I am not an expert, but I have seen people leaving an abusive relationship just to fall into the next one.  the pattern I see is often the need to find a new relationship soon after the bad one has ended. the fact that after six months you think you are ready for Mr. Forever does not look good. If I were you, I would do some counseling and try to understand what made me fall for the first guy (I am not saying it was your fault at all, but often there are reasons why a woman ends up in an abusive  relationship and if that women does not understand them she may just repeat the mistake). so the first thing you should try to understand is not how to "screen" men to see if they are Mr. Right, but if there is anything in your behavior that attracted an abuser and anything in your mind that made you somehow end up in an abusive relationship.  also, living by yourself for a while and feeling happy and "whole" without Mr. Forever would probably make you less likely to settle for anybody who is not a great guy.

good luck and congratulations for finding  the strength and courage to leave the abuser![/quote]

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