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[quote=Anonymous]OP here I hear you loud and clear 16:30. This is rather frightening.

I have to say he has many wonderful traits. He is compassionate with animals, people in general. A loving person. But something happened.

I actually know a bit about personlity disorders. I am wondering if the period in which he was NOT like this is attributable to the benefits of being married to me. I mean, he now had the security of love and caring and partnership. But quickly he showed signs of immaturity and not being up to certain things. He was 28 when we married.

THe therapist said that stress can basically bring out the behaviors but the underlying THOUGHTS of borderine personality disorder are the real problem.

At issue right now is what this all means. How and when and WHO should present this to him. What my chances are at ever being able to be in love with him again. I do love him but am very freaked out at the implicatinos of this new suggestion.

Im also very mad that no other therapist or psych has put this together before.

My husband DID tell his docs about his anger but I dont think they could possibly be getting a sense of the distortion that brings them about because he presents it to them in terms of stuff that has to do with HOW I AM TREATING HIM.

I feel very worried about what this revelation will do to him, if he even makes that connection. The therapist said that people with this disorder have no self accptance. If he keeps fucking things up royally with his behavior and destructive things said, then he will dig himself a hole so big he would never be able to get out.[/quote]

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