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[quote=Anonymous]his breath.

DH and I got married less than a year ago after dating for 4 years and got pregnant soon after the wedding.  I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant.   We had an amazing relationship - dating in another city and moving to DC together for his job.

In the last year, his allergies have become more of a problem and he uses an inhaler and allergy medication everyday.  Whether that has anything to do with it -- I don't know.  Before this started, I never noticed a problem and we were very close and had a wonderful relationship.  I know that a woman's sense of smell is heightened during pregnancy but this has truly become a problem.  A big problem.  I have suffered from slight nausea for the entire pregnancy (Nothing close to what some other women deal with) and at times can not even stand being in the same car as him or sitting close to him on the couch.  I think this is more of a post nasal issue than an actual breath issue because it is so constant and has a very distinct, offensive smell.

He is also a snorer.  So when he comes to bed and snores, it is again, a big problem.  I wake up - and have to physically turn him over so he is not breathing anywhere near me.  We have not been sexually active during this entire pregnancy and even more importantly we don't snuggle, hardly hug or even really kiss anymore.  DH is such an amazing man and so supportive and happy about this baby that he is constantly wanting to hug me and kiss me and all I do is turn away. It has caused a huge problem in our marriage - the only problem. It's like we have become roommates.

I really love my husband and miss him.  I feel very alone but I can't handle this issue.  I had started out giving him a piece of gum, and mentioned it very generally once or twice and said maybe it was dry mouth or from his inhaler...he started using Biotene mouthwash for this issue instead of Listerine but has not improved.  He was obviously very embarrassed and hurt when I brought it up directly to him but one night I just couldn't handle it anymore.  I felt so terrible.

At this point, the minute he gets into the house after work, I can smell it and it puts me in a bad mood and makes my nausea worse.  It sounds so terrible, and it is.  He is in his mid 30's and has an amazing, powerful job where he interacts with many people very closely during the day.  He is a brilliant, and gorgeous man but this issue has taken over my feelings for him.  I don't even enjoy going to the movies or dinner out at this point.  I don't want to embarrass him or upset him more and I don't know what to do.

I often hope that my sense of smell would be the issue and with the arrival of the baby - it would magically disappear but I know that is not the case.  Our relationship is suffering.  Please help me.  I can't even imagine dealing with this issue during labor and delivery.  [/quote]

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