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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am sorry you are dealing w/this unfortunate situation, but am confused by your post.

It sounds like your husband is neglecting his appearance and his health (both mental + physical), doesn't have any motivation to work and is putting all the domestic responsibility on [i]you,[/i] yet you won't leave him.

In all honesty, then there is nothing anyone on this forum can advise you to do.

You have already tried counseling and that didn't solve the problem.

So if you won't leave him, then it is by your own [u]choice[/u] unfortunately that your husband will drag you down alongside him. Actually from what you wrote, he already is.

I strongly advise you to re-consider staying w/him. He has a lot of issues that he needs to deal w/as a responsible adult and he has no right to ruin your life along w/his.

Good luck.[/quote]

Oh sush. Her [u]choice[/u] is that she's staying with her husband of 14 years as he battles an illness. Whether she is obligated to do so or not, she certainly does not deserve to be made to feel like she is making an inappropriate choice by doing so. And, I feel like attidues like yours are one reason people pretend they don't need medical help for depression and try to will themselves out of it.

OP, I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in. To the extent possible, stress to your husband that seeing a psychiatrist can help and that he should not expect the problem to go away without taking action. If he's the type of person who can be prodded into exercise, also strongly encourage that, because exercise is often an extremely effective depression treatment. And try to remember that most people recover from depression eventually.[/quote]

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