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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Tips? You knew what you married.

This really is ignorant. There was no such thing when we got married.[/quote]

also, things change when you have kids. Responsibilities that weren't part of dating become crucial--someone's ability to schedule, plan, organize, multitask, deal with kids are not always apparent when its two 20 somethings in a rented apartment. [/quote]

+1000

THANK YOU. My husbands ADD was NOT at all apparent when he was 28. Now he is 48 and depression and rage have kicked in. It is all related somehow, in his case, and in many cases.

OP- there are spouse of ADD support groups. Read all you can about ADD. Is hubby willing to be diagnosed and try strategies at least before trying meds, if he is unwilling to take meds? There are some good books like Driven to Distraction that are good resources from learning what its like to HAVE add.

Be forwarned that you will receive little to no empathy from you DH regarding how frustrating this is to you. They dont tend to be able to see it. It can make YOU crazy.

In my case, stress over time began to crush our marriage because his rage outbursts and inability to cope with ordinary things (yet he is very good at his job) has strained things to almost beyond repair. OP- DONT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU. Educate yourself, educate DH, encourage him to educate himself. This has implications for your kids, as you know.

Be good to yourself to keep yourself sane, that is the most important tip. Choose your battles. Be willing to make lists of exactly what you need DH to do if he cant seem to figure it out. VERY FRUSTRATING. But you are FAR from alone,

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