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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're not being unreasonable. He does not have to be working 12+ hour days every day. He is either managing his time very poorly or is unable to say no. The reality of being a working parent is that you have to achieve some kind of balance, and that balance should be a thing that your spouse has input into. He has created a life where he does not see his child except on the weekend. If that's acceptable for him, that bodes ill for your future. If he is unable to do a family dinner every day of the week, maybe he would be able to structure his schedule so that he has two "long days" in the office and three shorter days - or whatever his workload requires.

But honestly, having been in this town a while and worked on those offices, my bet is that it's 50% poor time management and 50% him choosing this life for himself and blaming the job.[/quote]

This post nails it.
OP, congrats to you on your perspective though. He probably doesn't love missing out on everything an working those hours, but at least you are trying to work with him. I'm glad he's a VP too. I used to work crazy hours and lean in like crazy as a single woman and it got me nowhere. So glad his work is appreciated. But he really does need to block out time on his calendar to go home. If that's what it takes, he needs to schedule it. He should also try to schedule in a workout at lunchtime if he can because this life sounds unhealthy. Sometimes, also, it is the assholes you work with who can't manage their time and it screws up your day. Hope you can find out if it's face time, time management or an inability to say 'no'. Good luck. Do you have family nearby? Find a babysitter so you can get away too. [/quote]

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