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[quote=Anonymous]My sister in law is so stubborn!  She is a single, free spirit type who lives in a faraway small university town, gets by on multiple part time jobs.  She will just dig her heels in and it is her way or the highway.

She recently flew in for a friend’s wedding.  During the visit, she adamantly refused to go to our super liberal church service with us because she says she is so traumatized by being forced to attend mass growing up that she will never go to another church, ever.   The thing is I actually really like her, and constantly defend her to others, but this church thing somehow REALLY hurt my feelings.  The church just means A LOT to us, it is the heart of our lives here, and it bummed me out big time that she would stand on an outdated principle rather than meet this community that obviously means so much to us.

At the last minute she decided not to rent a car for this trip, so my husband, baby and I spent 4 hours over the weekend in the car driving her to various functions in corners of Virginia.  Including a midnight run to Dulles, and 90 minutes during naptime (PRECIOUS WEEKEND NAPTIME).  She said thank you, and I feel like a total heel pointing this out as a quid pro quo, but in my heart I really feel like a one hour church visit was not a lot to ask after we went out of our way to help her all weekend.

Now she wants us to coordinate a visit over the holidays to see her parents, whom she doesn’t want to visit alone because she doesn’t get along with her mother (to the extent that she hasn’t gone to visit them in seven years).  I feel super petty, but it would be an inconvenience for us to do it, and honestly at this point I just don’t feel like accommodating her.

Any thoughts or advice?  I’m not dying to share my hurt feelings with her.  It’s not a new problem and I have no desire to be yet one more person trying to break her will.
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