Reply to Workaholic Spouse?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Workaholic Spouse?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Let me start by saying how much I love my husband. We've only been married a couple of years and are still very young. We have a 9 month old baby, and I am currently staying at home with her while he  works a white collar job downtown. 
Tonight is a typical Monday night- it's 9:40 PM and he's still at the office. I can probably expect him home around 10:30. Tuesday through Friday he will be home before 9:30, sometimes as early as 8:30. He gets into the office around 7:45 AM, so leaves our house around 7:15. Our baby wakes up at 7:30 AM and goes to bed at 8 PM, so he generally only sees her on the weekends. She loves him to death- gets so excited if she's still up when he gets home, squealing and smiling- but I wonder if they're really getting enough "face time" during the week. 
It may be that he's still young and "paying his dues" at the office, but I don't know how long I should let this schedule go on before having a serious sit-down conversation (preferably with a therapist present so he doesn't take it personally). I've proposed that we start having a family dinner at 7:30 on weeknights, then he can go back to work in the home office after dinner if he needs to. He's said ok, but won't really commit to doing it. Sometimes he will call me at 7 saying he's just sending one last email then coming home, but then I'll call the office an hour later and he's still there. If his secretary was a lot cuter, I'd be worried  :wink: 
I understand that he wants to give his job 110% and am so grateful for his financial support and appreciative of his hardworking nature, but being a SAHM can be very lonely, especially since I don't know ANY other SAHMs, only working moms. I'm just worried that he and baby aren't getting enough bonding time together. I know I'm not getting much time! Let's not even get started on the non-existant sex life...sigh...he's almost always falling into bed and passing out cold.
Have any of you had to broach this topic with your spouses? Am I being unreasonable? Maybe I'm just jealous of all of the government workers in this area who leave their desks at 4:59 PM every day. I just don't understand why my husband is relatively high up in his company and has to stay so much later than everybody else. Don't you have to set limits at some point?? Don't be too cruel to me- I've never really held a traditional office job so I don't really know the office culture.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics