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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know you know this and I know you probably don't want to hear this (I didn't!)... 3 cycles is really not that many, especially at 36 versus say, 26. At 33, it took us 13 cycles, and when I was freaking out at cycles 3-13, every where I turned there was a reminder that taking up to a year is really perfectly normal. (Up to 6 months after 35.)

Some things that helped me... doing everything I could to understand and control the process - the part that I could control at least. That meant following the Taking Charge of Your Fertility charting process, charting using Fertility Friend app, tracked bbt and CM, used the CBEF monitor, OPKs, inserted Pre-seed (lube that mimics cervical mucus), and even kind of crazily used Softcups (which I did use the cycle I got a BFP!), drank freaking red raspberry leaf tea, took evening primrose oil, I even did acupuncture for a couple of cycles - everything! I had clockwork cycles and confirmed ovulation every cycle, had pretty darned near perfectly timed sex. DH had his sperm tested around cycle 8 or 9 and it was great. So... sometimes it just takes awhile. The cycle I got my BFP was the cycle before we were to start clomid/IUI and I never in a million years thought that cycle would work. It was definitely not our best timed sex cycle. I worry about how hard it will be to try for #2, and I think I will really just focus on the monitor and charting and just have a ton of sex for the whole fertile period. I agree with PP, the data can become too much - it is really helpful - but you also need to follow your gut on EWCM. And just have as much fun with it as you possibly can.

Wishing you lots of luck for next cycle! 
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This was us, too.  12 cycles at age 33 when it took one at age 27.  Fertility friend App, charting Basal temps daily (6 am!  rise and shine!), Ovulation Predictor sticks (cheap on Amazon!), acupuncture twice a month for 6 months, raspberry tea, daily prenatal, B complex, perfectly timed sex, yoga, daily walks, etc.  I am now 20 weeks along.  It was a long, hard slog through the year until we conceived (with two m/c, too) - and it got to be very frustrating, month after month.  But then it worked!  And it's given me more appreciation for the miracle that is having a child.  Cheesy, but true.  A hundred things need to go right just to get the sperm to join the egg.  And then another hundred thousand things have to go right to get to the place where you have a baby in your arms.  It may take some time, so just stay positive, stay healthy, and hope for the best.[/quote]

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