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[quote=Anonymous]I am at a loss on how to handle this now and trying not to over-react.

I have told MIL that my DC does not handle certain sugary foods well (esp with food coloring) and I thought we were on the same page. DC has had MAJOR tantrums after eating this since 2 and so we avoid like the plague. Can handle baked goods fine, chocolate, etc but not fruit gummies, etc. Apparently I was told by my child that she does give packs of disney gummies etc and almost got the feeling it was their "secret"  I since told her again thinking maybe she didn't think that still applied so she promised me she would throw it out.  I even specifically said "On the weekdays that you watch the child please don't give because I have trouble with putting to bed and its so important for a good night sleep before school.

Last week I picked up DC and didn't have a drink in my car and we have a ten minute drive home. I am trying to not constantly supply drinks and snacks because it's not realistic etc. SO child screamed and cried for the entire ten minute drive which felt like forever. This is a very rare behavior and I figured it was something else. MY DH said maybe she gave alot of sugar. Once DC calmed down I said why did you get so upset-were you just tired? child nods. What did grandma give you? A smile comes out so I know it's something I wouldn't approve of. Then DC said a pack of gummies. I was so upset. How could this not get through. I almost feel like she is more concerned with making DC happy in that minute than anything else including cavities, sleep etc.

I calmed down and we are so appreciative of the help she gives so I didn't want to freak out.. So I mentioned casually the other day when she was taking to a movie about the gummies and tried to explain it's such a bizarre reaction we almost have to treat it like an allergy. She never sees the freak out part becuase it happens after I get child back.
We picked up child that night and when we asked what was given for dinner child said-nothing I had skittles at the movies.

What would you do at this point? I almost feel like she couldn't leap to see that skittles were also FOOD COLORED and all sugar. Very very frustrated. She is very helpful and is on her own so lives to see my DC and would do anything but I also think she does anything to get approval.  I'm not a crazy NO Sugar mom-although I do think it has to be regulated but he doesn't react this way to a chocolate chip cookie.[/quote]

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