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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]@ 07:35 We did everything possible to make as small as a footprint as we could while we were there. We cleaned all the time, bought our own food, did our own laundry on the days we were not at work, we tried to get our toddler out of the house as much as possible. My husband is not a lazy slob whatsoever and even offered to help clean the house, do the rest of the families laundry on a regular basis. @7:50 - I think you are right about this. My Mom seems like she has gotten OCD about everything (things like- I have to do laundry at 8:00 AM every Tuesday or the whole world will end), stuff like that. I think some of it is old age, and I think my Dad especially has something going on. My Mom said she thinks she might have the beginnings of Parkinsons. So maybe that explains some of it. But yes, I'll try to not take it personally and avoid at all costs staying there again. [/quote] While you're avoiding staying with them, please don't avoid seeing them entirely. Based on what you say in the post quoted here they may need your compassion and your help, not anger and avoidance. The fact your mom is so locked into routine; the fact that they acted as they did despite your family's working so hard to stay out of the way etc.; the fact that your mom even mentioned Parkinson's re: your dad -- this all sounds like red flags to me. Nothing grave yet, but things to watch. Increased irritability and anger (especially if your dad was not like that all his life), extreme pickiness, extreme adherence to certain things being done certain ways or the world is upside down, are all things that happen as many folks age, but if you really feel your dad's personality is changing, or your mom is truly becoming "OCD" as you say -- those things can be early signs of Alzheimer's and other dementias....Not saying that's where this is going, but please, try to let their anger and your own upset go, and see them without staying there. Keep an eye on them. [/quote]
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