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[quote=Anonymous]My husband has a temper, and it generally manifests itself with a lot of yelling and swearing. He's started yelling at our children, and I really cannot tolerate this. I understand getting angry, because our kids are young -- 2 and 4 -- and they drive me crazy almost daily. However, I do not think it's appropriate to yell things such as "Oh my F***ing God, SHUT UP" or "What do you fucking want?" It's escalating to the point where he told my 4 year old to Shut the F*** Up yesterday morning when we were walking her to preschool. I know what everyone will say -- divorce him. It's not that easy. I worry about the mental health and safety of my children if he gets 50%, or any % really, custody. I don't believe in denying a relationship, and I'd be fine with them having playdates and dinners or breakfasts and other shorter-length visits. I just don't want them living with him at all. My oldest daughter is starting to exhibit some behavioral problems and is over-the-top emotionally sensitive these days, and it's getting worse and worse. I know his behavior is the root cause. I've started recording every instance of this type of behavior directed toward the kids, so I have it if I need it.

He thinks I'm being a prude. I'm not. I can and often do curse like a sailor. I just curb it in front of the kids and don't direct it at them ever. Sure I will sometimes drop the F-bomb if I step on their toys or cut my finger or whatever, but it's not a regular occurrence. With my husband it's like he can't utter a single sentence without throwing some 4-letter word in there, and the minute he gets irritated with any of us he starts hurling them at us. I don't think I'm in the wrong here. Am I? And if you think not, any suggestions for tactics that may help me convince him that this is harmful behavior? Also, what else should I be doing now to protect my children in the event of divorce. BTW, it would definitely be a financial hardship for me to support the kids on my salary alone (in this area), but I do make more money than him and could definitely support the kids and myself should I leave him  (although footing the daycare/preschool bill and mortgage or rent would be pretty difficult). [/quote]

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