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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Counseling ad therapy are WAY cheaper than divorce. Get going on this. [/quote]

Boy isn't that the truth.  I'm almost divorced. You sound like my ex who is incredibly sorry for leaving.  After child support, house payment (yes, I got the house but only half of the mortgage), and expenses of a second household, there isn't any money for life.  No dinners out, no vacations, no golf games.  Etc.  for me, I'm pretty much financially where I was in the marriage because of child support and having half of the mortgage paid and my kids didn't have to give up private school or any activities.  Plus I was the one who had all of the retirement savings and I was able to keep it all so even after child support ends, there is no green pasture for my ex.l

Also, you might have to maintain separate households for a period of time before filing for divorce.  In MD it's a year with absolutely no overnights and no sex.

Thing about you is you sound like my ex.  Here's my perspective.  I work full time and was always the primary caretaker.  I didn't mind and I wasn't angry over it or nagging about it.   My lack of time for my ex was due to kids' needs, one of whom is special needs and another who struggles in school, not because I was out having fun with friends or going to spas.  What appeared as my lack of interest was in reality exhaustion from long days of taking care of the family and working in a busy and stressful job.  By the time I had time to talk about anything besides who was dropping off which kids the next day or what was for dinner, my ex was firmly rooted in front of the tv and had no interest in conversation.  The few counseling sessions we went to for purposes of forming agreements that are in the best interest of the kids show that counseling likely would have worked to resolve the underlying issues.  But once someone leaves, there's a lot of damage to repair and trust isn't easy to give again. [/quote]

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