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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the thing is, you don't know what it feels like to be a single mom. You feel lonely and overwhelmed. You feel like you are always the one who has to do everything, and maybe that's true. I felt that way too, but it wasn't until after I left, when I really was the one who had to do everything because there wasn't anyone else there that I realized the extent to which life is made easier in some ways by simply having another adult around.

I don't regret leaving, though.

I would also strongly suggest that you think about what your life would look like divorced from him. Yes, you will get breaks. You will also get stretches of time where you don't know what's going on with DD. You will lose a say in how she spends that time, because it's not your family anymore. You can write things into separation agreements, but they don't always hold. Are you comfortable, for example, with your potentially-ex-husband bringing women to meet your DD? What if they spend the night? Does he drink? Do you believe that he will care for her safely and responsibly?

Given the little you said about your situation, I don't believe that your options are "stay" or "leave" with no caveats to that. It sounds like your husband needs to step up. Have you talked to him about the way he's been acting? Have you guys gone to counseling? Both of those, followed by a separation, would be good interim steps that would allow him to get his act together (if he's really the great guy you think he is) and take steps to improve your marriage. If he chooses not to do that, at least you will not feel like you gave up too easily.[/quote]

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