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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was in a similar situation.  First thing, DO NOT GET PREGNANT again.

Now, I was living like you.  And now I am a single mom.  Things you have to know about single parenting:  [b]There is something to be said for having an adult in the house when it's 2 AM and you have to run to the drugstore.  And "just barely" contributing, man oh man sometimes I wish I had someone to "just barely" contribute something, anything[/b].  Also, what about finances?  Is he making good money?  Because your financial situation will change significantly after a divorce and state mandated child support is a pittance.  What if you lose your job?  Health insurance?

But, I will say that now that my ex is getting his life together, he takes the kids more often and I actually get some free time, which is nice.

What will your husband do with a toddler/preschooler on his visitation days without you?  Are you comfortable that he will adequately supervise her?

It is true that I am happier now and we all are in a better place because I divorced my ex.  But I hope you will get therapy and seriously try to see if your marriage is worth saving before walking down the road I have.  It is not an easy one.  Good luck.[/quote]

This cannot be overstated.  The is a significant diffrence between a single parent and having another adult in the house who will at least provide the absolute bare minimum attention to even a sleeping child. When you are single you are either stuck in the house every single night once the child goes to bed or you are bringing them with you. You have ZERO alone time, unless of course you are paying $15/hour for babysitting.

I know the grass is always greener, but I'd work on couselling w/ H before I walked away. [/quote]

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