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[quote=Anonymous]Nine years is a long time to be married and many men get bored and restless at this point. Add in the idea of two more kids coming in a few more months, and he probably is feeling more and more trapped. <---- Not saying this is acceptable by the way, because it isn't. Just trying to explain his actions.

He probably views porn because you are pregnant now and it is nice to fantasize about a thinner woman he can imagine getting it on w/. Or perhaps he just likes to fantasize about porn stars in general and maybe has an addiction. As his wife, I wouldn't be too happy if my husband was viewing porn on his own. Esp. if he was having less and less sexual relations w/me in the process.

As for the dating site, this is very troubling to me.
It appears he is doing more than simply "fantasizing" here. If he truly is an active member on this site, then he is taking certain steps it seems to reach out and be w/other women which is definitely unacceptable considering he is a married man, plus he is a father-to-be of twin babies!! Argh! What a jerk.

His response after you confronted him was so hurtful.
He did a very sloppy job of covering his tracks. Do you suppose he wanted to get caught? Or that he was lax because he didn't care if he did or not?

Regardless, things are very dicey now.
You are in a very vulnerable state now, both physically and emotionally and it is very cruel and unfair that your husband has put you in this position.

My advice of course would be to kick this loser to the curb, but being pregnant w/twins is not exactly the best time to make it on your own.

If I were in your shoes, I would stay w/him until I had the twins, then leave him afterward.
Hopefully you have a large support system in place to help out once the babies arrive.

Or I would demand my husband accompany me to counseling ASAP to work on his issues w/me and what it is exactly that is making him do these unacceptable things online.

OP, I am very sorry that this is happening to you, esp. now w/everything else you are dealing w/.

Your husband is a very insensitive and clueless jerk, but for the sake of your family I hope things can be worked out.

Good luck.[/quote]

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