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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are you, what kind of resources are you talking about, and does one or both of you have some separate financial or caregiving obligation that predates your marriage (eg, kids elsewhwere, etc).

If you're relatively young, no other entanglements, merge them. You can decide that each has a small side account with some "fun money" that you don't want the other to see and is not the other person's business what you do with. But other than that, don't create headaches.

Or, if you're just not that sure about the other person and don't believe them to be trustworthy, divorce now and get a jump on things. [/quote]

OP here:  I'm 30.  I think I have about $120Kish and she has about $60Kish.  I do have a financial obligation that predates the marriage and that's a large part of what's driving this.  It's not a lack of trust issue but I'd just rather her not see the money being diverted elsewhere so by keeping it as "my" money it's out of sight out of mind.  It's my issue and as much as I possibly can I want to compartmentalize it so I don't drag her into it.

I guess the other side of it is that I've seen a fair amount of divorces and things get really nasty so I think an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.  Unfortunately, sometimes shit happens and as much as I'd like to think we're "special" I'm sure most people getting divorced years down the road thought the same thing.[/quote]

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