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[quote=Anonymous]What do you mean by successful? My husband had an affair with a married mom of two - a coworker. Did they get fired, get an STD, have a baby he did not plan, or lose their marriage over it? No. In that sense I guess it was a success.

Did it all come out and did both their spouses find out? And at least for my husband, his parents, sister (all of whom he is very close to) find out and have to deal with it? Yes. Did he end up convulsing in sobs on our basement floor the night it all came out to me? Yes. So in that sense, not a success.

But could have been worse. They didn't end up together, but I don't think that was the point....it was more about escaping a lot of unmanaged and undealt with frustration. While he almost lost everything (we separated for almost a year, and I suppose lucky that the kids were very young and my oldest has only vague memories of that, and is not old enough to have realized that was weird...yet), it ended up leading us to a stronger marriage, he resolved a lot of issues with his father who took the whole thing very hard (he had an affair too), and definitely made me a stronger person and forced us both to let go of a lot of crap. So in that sense it was a success....but I don't think that was you meant OP.

It is very hard to keep control in an affair. You are dealing with a lot of different people's emotions (the two affair partners, and likely their spouses because even if they don't know, I promise you they suspect at some point) and emotions are unstable and unpredictable. [/quote]

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