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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP with late DH here.  Have you thought about the old trick of lying about the time? Say that your boss changed your hours and now you need to leave the house at 7:30.

In the situation above, after he said he would be ready, then I would say "I really need to leave at 8 so if you aren't down here with shoes on at 8 then DD and I are out the door."  then do it.[/quote]

Your second suggestion is more or less what I usually do. The problem is that if DD and I take metro, we actually need about 15 minutes more than we do if we all drive together (one car, he parks at his office). So this morning, it was me saying at 7:45, "Hey, are you sure you'll be ready to go at 8? If not, DD and I will just leave now and take the train" and then me saying, at 8, "Hey, it's 8. I need to go now. Can you step up the pace please?"

It's not just mornings, either. Last year, we almost missed an afternoon flight because he futzed around getting his stuff together while DD and I waited, coats on, to go upstairs and get in the cab to the airport. We were literally the last people to get on the flight.

I don't think he does it intentionally. I think he just genuinely has no idea how long mundane tasks like shaving and putting on shoes actually take. He's also not a person who is really ever inclined to be in a hurry and has essentially structured his life such that he doesn't really have to be anywhere "on time". He can get to work pretty much any time, as long as it's before 10. He makes plans with friends that involve playing things by ear and getting together "around such and such time".

It just makes me really sad that the person I married cannot alter his routine to accommodate mine, and I have no idea how to talk to him about it without him getting defensive and blamey about it.[/quote]

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