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[quote=Anonymous]OP--what exactly is different or missing from your past interactions?  When you can articulate that, then you might be able to have a productive conversation.  Don't try to focus on the why, just focus on pushing yourself to get at the heart of the matter.

For example, if you and your friend used to talk once a week, and now you only talk once a month, then that is the issue.  Or if you feel like you are the one initiating every interaction, then that is the issue.  Or if you were in the middle of telling her something significant and personal, and suddenly she interrupted you to tell you about fabric swatches for her beach home, that is an issue.  Forget all the material things in your friend's life.  Focus on your interactions with her NOW.  Don't predict what MIGHT happen in the future (as in "will she lose interest in me?) Get to the root of the issue.

If the root is that you are jealous or feeling insecure about "keeping up," then okay, own it. That is YOUR issue, not hers.  But if there is a change in how the relationship operates and you can point to specific examples, then talk with her and come to the table with a goal of figuring it out together. [/quote]

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