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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you new to the area?  It's funny that you would refer to "Kristin" as your "best friend."  Do you have pre-kid friends or anyone from your work that you could be friends with?  Honestly I've personally found that forced friendships based on the fact that I have similar-aged kids with someone are very transient.  We hang out all the time with the kids, but then as soon as the kids change schools or get into another friend or something, we stop hanging out.  They're not really "friends" per se, just good acquaintances.  If what you're going after is a really good FRIEND that you can talk to about life stuff and not just kid stuff, I'd advise trying to make friends with someone in your life that isn't based on your kids being friends.[/quote]

Great perspective and advice. I moved out of the DC area when I had my daughter. I know, my "best friend" situation is lame. That's why I'm concerned, just feel like I need that role in a friend.[/quote]

Have you always had that role in your life before kids?  I completely get wanting that, but know that you're definitely not alone in not having it.  In the past year there was a NYT article on just this actually - how difficult it is to make close friends after college.  I have a "best friend," but she was my college roommate.  I have lots of fellow moms that I hang out with all the time, some work friends that I see occasionally, and a handful of people I can call on to go out to a movie or something, but none of them I would consider best friends.

I think maybe re-evaluating the friend roles you feel like you need in your life might help.  You might find that if you have enough social activity day-to-day, you don't need that best girl friend like you always had back in school.  If you need someone to have deep talks with, how's your husband or your mom or other parent figure?  If you don't have that, you could try divulging a few low-key secrets to one of your closest acquaintances and see how she reacts.  You might find someone that wants a deeper relationship too.  Or maybe not, but you can work on being happy with the people you do know and the level of social interaction they are giving you.[/quote]

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