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[quote=Anonymous]I basically feel like you do and my schedule is like your schedule.  So I guess I'm saying -- we're in the same boat!

I do get EOW "off."  But on those weekends, I still have games to watch and all the errands and chores that don't get done with our crazy weekday schedule.  I am lucky that I have lots of energy.  Really.

I've come to the conclusion, it is run around like crazy or don't be in a relationship.  Fortunately, after lots of trial and error, I've found a guy that gets it.  He's a single father but has a different schedule than me.  We've talked about bringing the kids into the relationship, but...neither of us has done that yet (with others) and our kids are different ages.  Basically, I want to take it very slow on that as there is no rush.

My kids love sitters, so I get cheers when they hear someone is coming over.  I get sitters in fits and starts.  It's not a regular thing.  All that being said, I only have so much free time, so the time that I can spent with my BF is very limited -- and his life is very busy as well.  We're averaging just 1-2x a week.  We want to spend more time together, but it's been a few months and with summer travel, this is the best we've been able to manage.

When I was dating people 1-2 times (looking for a steady relationship), that was totally exhausting.  Lots of racing around, running late, throwing clothes on, staying up too late...but there really wasn't an alternative.  I prefer someone with kids -- and a good dad at that!  I've gone out with all ages (older, younger), kids, no kids.  I have no rules, but some common ground helps when things get really hectic.

Take your time and I believe if handled properly, you are entitled to adult time and your child will adjust.  If you were married and had social engagements, it would be no different, IMO.  I went out all the time when I was married.[/quote]

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