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[quote=Anonymous]i'm totally in the same boat except my sil lives out of state.

as far as the wedding grudges, i have chosen to let those go. i just don't think its worth it to hold on to those forever because there is no point and even if she did wear white to my (not summer) wedding. i can't hold all of the thing she (and her mother) did during that time. i have no good thoughts of my wedding and i don't even like talking about it because they totally ruined it for me but i just can't spend forever using that as a reason to why we can't be close and move on.

i've reached out to my sil a lot over the years to try and build a relationship but she never responds nor does she really reach out to me. additionally, she does a fair amount of making my husband and i look terrible to her parents even if its unfounded or misled. sadly, my mil/fil tend to believe her but we refuse to make her look bad to them just because she is doing it to us.

but after all this time, i am over trying to have a relationship with her but i feel terribly guilty about giving up on the idea of it or trying. i feel like everything would be nicer if we were all close or that our children should know their aunts/uncles and cousins and my dh only sibling should be a bigger part of our lives and i should continue to try and make that happen. but i am just so tired of it and i truly have no desire to keep trying. sometimes i think the relationship i want to have is not possible with the sil i do have? and maybe i feel like everyone will view me as the jerk if i don't keep trying?

obviously, i have no advice just sympathy. and since you live close, i would do what you can to maintain a relationship with your nieces/nephews and provide the opportunity for your children to have a relationship with their aunt/uncle but maybe a relationship with your sil is just not in the cards for you.

what does your dh think of his sister?

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