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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here  - to continue - his excuse is always that he is too busy and he doesn't want to waste time going through stuff.  He is very busy - extremely busy working and remodeling our house.  So, I tell him, I have more time and I don't mind cleaning/organizing, but you have to let me do it.  and he will say, No, I have to go through it myself.  But the problem is, He never, ever goes through anything ever.  I think he just enjoys clutter and enjoys keeping every single item he has ever owned just in case he needs it later (of course, he can never find it because of the disorganization.)[/quote]

I let my husband do this in his office (had frosted panes put in the french door windows), his workshop, and our spare bedroom, which holds his photo equipment (very rarely used for guests anyway as family lives far). The rest of the house is pretty organized, though I can be guilty of not filing right away.

It's frustrating, but eventually my husband started letting go of things like unused microwave ovens, thought it was his altruistic side that led to this. He got great pleasure out of donating.

By the way, throwing away his college cap and gown is precisely why he wants to do it himself. I can see why he'd want to perhaps keep that.

One of the major reasons my friend divorced his wife, was her insensitivity. After his father died, she nagged him incessantly about a couple boxes of his father's clothing he kept in HIS car trunk (afraid to bring them in due to her bitching). She actually went INTO HIS TRUNK a month after his father's death and got rid of them.  That's just wrong on many levels. Don't be THAT woman.[/quote]

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