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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder.  Relax.  If your DD is really that smart then why send her to a crappy school just because she won't be surrounded by wealth. That's really not a good long term strategy.  What schools are you thinking about that meet your socioeconomic criteria?  Even Montgomery College will have some wealthy kids in it.  Have you looked at the financial aid profile for the schools your DD is interested in?  I bet it is way higher than your current private school.

I also find it hard to believe that your DDs friend is a shoe-in to any top school and already has "dibs" on freshman housing.  That seems very unlikely since the top schools have tried pretty hard to eliminate those kind of class distinctions.  If you are that concerned you can certainly require your DD to go through the normal housing process and live in the freshman dorms with a roommate.  [/quote]

I understand that you might have a hard time believing it but I am 99.9% certain as all of her siblings did and many many people in her family..that she will go there too, think buildings named after them, very big donors along that line. I don't want to say much more because i do not want to compromise someone figuring out what family i am talking about. And they are wonderful and generous people, have been great to my d. But I also know that she cannot keep up with what they do and when shes home its much easier to "corral her in " but with her being on her own and independent I am nervous about her getting caught up in "that world". I didn't even know that kind of housing existed until I was "enlightened". And I was never intimating that I want her to go to a lesser school. Of course I wouldn't  want that but was hoping to take her to see a few other ivies to open her eyes but now that they could potentially be together, she has no interest whatsoever in looking at other schools seriously (but has visited 3 or 4).

I am sure a lot of this is my own anxiety about her going away period but I think I am justified in being concerned about how this could possibly go. Normally you go off and are open to meeting new people at a level playing field..if they both go, she will be given a chance to be front row and center from the very start but riding on someone else's coattails to do it. That is my concern. On the other hand, she is very driven and a super academic so maybe she will get  very engrossed in her studies and start connecting with others like her??? I can only hope![/quote]

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