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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with that I don't think your attitude or positive thinking makes a difference in the outcome.  It really is putting unncessary added pressure on yourself.  We've been at this for over three years and I've been all over the spectrum.  I have found, however, that your attitude can affect how you cope with things like setbacks and your relationship with the people in your life.

I think the best thing to do is to give yourself permission to feel the way you do, have a support group (friends/family/therapist, etc.) for when you need them, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.  You'll feel the way you feel and whatever that is for the day or moment, it's ok.

For me, I came up with different coping mechanisms.  For example, I've gotten more involved in certain volunteer activities (pet rescue) to prevent me from focusing on infertility all the time which was making me a basketcase.  It's gotten me out of the house when I feel like crap.

After our first year and a half of trying and after getting a really lousy diagnosis, we adopted a dog.  She's the first dog I ever owned and was a ton of work, but she has really helped my husband and I cope during some tough times.  She gets us out of the house and makes us laugh with her antics.  She's definetly decreased our stress levels.

Everyone's coping mechanism will be different but I have felt a lot less stress since starting to volunteer.  I would recommend trying different things to see what works for you to help.  I tried meditation but ironically, it was stressful for me.  :-)[/quote]

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