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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not op, but I am not married, don't have kids, and am the unflavored sibling. The others are married with kids and I am the excluded black sheep. It sucks, makes me feel very alone, and I would like advice on dealing with it too,[/quote]

I used to be in your situation as well and after I got married and had kids, I still feel like the unfavored one.  In my case, I don't think my parents actually favor my brother.  I think they are afraid of my SIL and know that she will hold it against them if they don't comply with her wishes and demands.  With me, they know that I would never do that so my needs are often overlooked in favor of hers.  It sucks but I blame it more on my brother and SIL than on my parents.  On the other hand, I have really awesome in-laws and my husband's sister is great.[/quote]

That was a really helpful advice. Talk about being self-involved.[/quote]

My point in sharing is that the issue that pp is facing may have nothing to do with her lack of a husband and kids. Marriage and kids didn't change anything for me. The problem may not be with the relationship you have with your parents either. It could be a deeper issue between your parents and your siblings. In my case the relationship between my parents and sil is clearly strained so they feel the need to bow to her wishes. There is nothing I can do to change that and so I just accept the relationship that I have and move on, counting my blessings that the other side of the family doesn't have the same drama.

And the helpful piece of advice that you offered was....?[/quote]

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