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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is only 6 and I have no idea how I will approach this when the time comes.

All I can say is that it doesn't seem an unreasonable approach. I never had sex in my parents' house, but i did have sleepovers with my high school boyfriend, who became my husband, and 25 years later,  he is the only man I have been with.

So, I don't know. [/quote]

OP again.  I know, it seems a long way off, no?  But, as an example, we have friends with an 11 year old boy and they have always been open with him and sex and anatomy from the beginning.  The result is that now, at 11, when he has questions he asks his mother.  He knows his questions will be respected and answered truthfully, and that his curiosity is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.  I see their approach as a model and we have tried to follow it.  What I wonder about is where that approach might lead, and how I would feel if my son came to me at 15 or 16 and told me he was having sex, or thinking about having sex.  I'd like to think I would be calm and supportive, and be able to discuss it with him rationally.  The reality is if he is set on doing it, he's going to do it (at least based on my experiences growing up).  So he'd be doing it SOMEWHERE.  The question is, could I or would I be able to give him carte blanche to have sex in my house?  The open-minded part of me says yes.  The emotional mother goes "arggggghhhhhh!"

So, I am curious to hear what parents of teenagers think, if anyone has approached this issue in the "Dutch" way, and what the consequences were/have been.[/quote]

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