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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find that posts venting about Mom are often met with snarky responses about OP not appreciating her mom, etc., but very similar posts about MILs receive much more sympathetic responses.

Has anyone else noticed this? I love my mom to pieces, but yes, she does make me nuts sometimes - and I make her nuts sometimes too. Are there people who really NEVER get irritated with their moms? Or is it that you believe you shouldn't voice it out of respect?[/quote]

I never get irritated with my mom. I guess there were probably times when I was a teenager when I found her embarrassing or bossy or whatever, but I don't remember us ever having "fights" the way some people did with there moms. There was never a time when I felt like I couldn't trust her with some information or rely on her to give me good, non-judgy advice, or whatever.

I know it's an unusual relationship. We do not always agree on everything, but having a difference of opinion on strategy or different perspectives on this or that has not affected our relationship negatively in my adult life.

As for why people vent more about their MIL than their mom, I think that sometimes, people are slightly immunized to their mom's issues, whereas MIL is a relatively new fixture in life (even if you've been married for decades, she's still newer than your actual mom!). Sometimes people have a hard time creating and maintaining boundaries for whatever reason. My former MIL had almost no boundaries with me, both because she was so excited about our marriage and subsequent child and also because she has a personality disorder. If my mom had invaded my personal space and asked such extremely personal TMI questions when I was pregnant, I probably would have been pretty annoyed about it. But she didn't. Because we had 30 years of boundaries to inform the way we interacted at that time. MIL and I didn't.[/quote]

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