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[quote=Anonymous]My mom grew up without a mother. She lived with her aunt for several years and then her father, who sent her to boarding school for grades 6-12. She married young but didn't have a child until she was nearly 40. That child is me.
Growing up my mom was present, she didn't work, she liked to knit and cook. Everyone thought she was a typical SAHM. But as I got older, I realized she wasn't like other moms. She didn't buy me many gifts for Christmas. She seemed envious if my father and I did things together that excluded her. She refused to go prom dress shopping with me or pay for such events. She never gave advice. She didn't console me when I was upset. She didn't help me shop for colleges. When I got married, she wasn't interested in helping with plans, dress shopping, paying for anything, etc. And it wasnt because she didnt like my husband, she loves him. Now I'm in my mid thirties and expecting my first child and here we go again... disinterested in baby showers, helping with registries, etc.
I am SO envious of women whose mothers get excited and jump up and down and can't wait to celebrate these milestones with their daughters. I know my mother loves me and is supportive of the choices I've made in my life. Why can't she show it a little bit??! It makes me sad and it makes others around us very confused. 
To top it off, my mom needs LOTS of advice/coaching/support to get through trivial decisions-- what shoes to buy, what napkins look best with these plates, what do I buy my neighbor for Christmas. It's constant. And it's exhausting. Worse, there's no reciprocation.

Is there a polite way to tell her how I feel? Or is it too late? 
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