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[quote=Anonymous]I had what I thought was a great relationship with my mother in law when I first got married - we would go shopping, meet for lunch, I helped her decorate her home, we talked about gardening, etc.  They never used to travel beyond going to the beach and I planned a few trips around the country that my in laws enjoyed.  After having a baby, I feel like things have changed.  For one - she watches my daughter once a week (which I truly appreciate) and I now only see her once every few months.  I feel like she is satisfied getting to see her son (who does the drop offs and pick ups) and grand daughter, and never tries to see us all together or me alone.  I feel left out and not really part of the family.  She also never calls to see how things are going and sends messages about family news or events through my husband.  She used to send over food for us on a regular basis or buy something she thought I'd like for the house and this doesn't happen anymore either. (I'm not dependent on these things, but it was really sweet) She buys stuff for my daughter, but doesn't ask what she needs so they are often very random items that I may already have, etc.

I've reached out to her a few times and she says that nothing is wrong.  She is a pretty passive person while I am direct.  I don't want to keep on pushing her, but I also miss the relationship (which I've expressed) and getting together as a family.  Instead, now I am resentful and don't go out of my way anymore to invite my in laws over or request to meet up.

Any advice?

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