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[quote=Sabrina55]My fiance and I are in our early 40's and have been living together for four years in my house with my two children from a previous marriage, he has never been married and has no children. He also owns two houses that he collects rent from. The first year that he lived here he didn't pay anything (we split food shopping at first, then he paid for all) and wasn't working steady since he needed some down time and had enough money saved to do so. He then got a job that pays really well about 3x more than me and that is me including my child support with that, (he does work more hours than me). I also have a tenant that pays about 44% of mortgage and no utilities detached from house. I felt he should chip in financially, not fair that I pay all the bills. So he took the cable bill, and gives money which is about equal to half of electric bill and about 70% of the food shopping cost. I pay mortgage, anything that breaks, oil, water, everything else. During this period he has had the opportunity to save thousands, so he can retire very early. I get a good amount for child support and alimony but am living check to check, with their father being behind. I am also dishing out thousands to pay a lawyer to finalize the divorce which was prolonged for medical insurance reasons (which of course is my issue, just trying to give an idea of bills) I rarely buy anything for myself and buy only necessary clothes for kids and some extras, I have never owned a new car. They do not have smart phones or tablets, they saved birthday money to buy their own laptops, I do give them spending money for ice cream and to go to movies and such and was trying to put a little away for college (which is only 3 years away for one). I have never been materialistic and would never be with someone for what they can buy me. We split when we go out to eat. We split if we go away. He does buy me nice presents for occasions and takes me away for birthdays. I do the majority of the cleaning and yard maintenance, he has repaired things in the past and helps with yard work, decorating for the holidays etc. "as favors, since it is my house" (I pay for the items), (I have also helped out with things his houses needed between tenants, painting, cleaning, raking etc.) he does dishes, garbage etc. My house is in need of more repairs that I don't have the money for (roof , plumbing, but can still wait), but it is well kept and clean. We can not agree what would be a fair amount for him to contribute. He feels that since they are not his kids and not his house, that the amount he gives now is too much, I feel it is not enough. I suggested we live in one of his houses and I rent my house out and profit for awhile, but that is out of the question, cause his houses are a "business". It doesn't cost him anything to live at his parents and feels I am the one benefiting by him living here and contributing to any of the bills, since without him living there I would get nothing. I really need some feedback or advice from an outsider, am I being greedy by wanting him to financially chip in more or should he be paying more of a percent? These issues are building resentment, I wish there was a formula (income, %, kids, bills) Thanks for reading if you made it all the way through, any suggestions are appreciated.[/quote]

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