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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is definitely not Prince Charming when we're with his side if the family. Unfortunately, we're with them for most of a week. Thoughts on how to handle it? He was raised to think men shouldn't cook, clean, help out, and while [b]he's kind if a jerk at home[/b], he's much worse here. I feel like I'm sacrificing my vacation time (and my sanity) to be here for a week and getting no appreciation or help or accommodation.

Dear dcum, help me out![/quote]

The only one who can help you out is...you. The statement in bold says it all. Why do you expect him to step up and help out when he is with the very family that [i]raised[/i] him to be "kind of a jerk"?

If you view him that way, it's time to do some serious reassessment of who he is and why you married him and why you tolerate remaining with "kind of a jerk." Why do you? And why don't you call him out on it at home (if you DO call him out on it and he doesn't change....he's an even bigger jerk)?

Vacation isn't fun for you. Home doesn't sound like a haven if he's also a no-cook, no-clean, no-help jerk at home. Your post focuses on this one week of his behavior and on blaming it on his being around family. Aren't you missing the real issue here? A jerk is being a bigger jerk for this week. Think hard about why you allow it to go on either on vacation or at home.

As for how to handle this one week: Don't. Pack up the kids and leave early if you're miserable, leaving him to have "fun" with his relatives but without you. DH will hate it. Good. It might be the slap in the face he needs. when he gets home, present him with his chore list and the dates and times of your upcoming couples counseling sessions.[/quote]

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