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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't visit unless husband came with me. And I think I would go to a nearby hotel and have them come there. I don't think i would take the kids to a house where I am the outsider. [/quote]

I agree with this advice. 
Or I would suggest meeting somewhere in the middle.[/quote]

Two excellent options of going there and staying in a hotel, or meeting in a neutral location in the middle. Either would be good but I would push for the latter because that way you are nowhere near their turf and they aren't near yours.

Also, a week sounds like far, far too long for an initial visit like this, especially if your children are with you and seeing grandma and grandpa for the first time ever. These adults are total strangers to them. I would see them for one day, plan to stay the night (in a hotel, not in anyone's home, sibling or parent) and then SEE if you want additional visiting time the next day. Be sure to have some form of activity planned that involves the children in DOING something somewhere (which is easier if you're meeting at some neutral third location--you do not want the kids sitting around grandma and grandpa's living room, with you terrified that either the kids will touch something and be yelled at, or that the kids will be bored and get restless).

If grandma and grandpa refuse to leave the house to meet you somewhere -- unless one of them is sick or infirm and literally cannot leave -- I would not see them. [/quote]

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